I have come to realize that success can come in many forms, and can look like anyone. It could be doing a mid career switch to do AR/VR. It could be doing a bootcamp on UI/UX outside working hours, It could even be as simple as raising your hand and volunteering for a project that you are interested in, or asking for mentorship / sponsorship.
I was a curious and competitive child by nature, and when I was not surrounded by books, I was grinding it out in video games, trying to be the best player in whatever game that caught my interest. With gaming being a huge part of my life, I knew early on that I wanted to build my career in tech. I have been very privileged to be able to work in people and culture roles in the technology, telecommunications, and gaming industry, where I get to bring my most authentic self to work.
Being able to self regulate. By being more self aware, and by being more accepting of what I am feeling, I am able to make decisions in a more deliberate and objective manner. My inner critic is harsh, and I am often not kind to myself. I constantly am trying to prove my worth, and am trying to be a better person vs the person I was a week ago. I’ve learnt to sit with my feelings, and to put distance between what I am feeling, so that I am able to deal with my emotions and my problems in a more empathetic manner.
It is not a challenge limited to minority women, but there is a lot of imposter syndrome, and we often credit our success to luck. I have worked VERY HARD to get this lucky. It is hard to get lucky watching TV at home, but a lot easier if I am out there engaging with causes I care about, interacting with people, and most importantly learning.
I never thought I would end up in recruiting, and I only discovered my passion for people after trying so many different roles throughout my career, from office management to the full spectrum of HR functions. Being in recruitment gives me the opportunity to shape what the future of the company looks like, and I enjoy seeing the impact that I make, not just to the organization, but to the people I speak with.
It is not really advice per say, but one quote I like is “Chaos is a Ladder” from Game of Thrones. Life is chaotic, consisting of things you know, and things which are scary and unknown to you. You need to rise above it by constantly learning and making sense of the chaos.